Go through any check-out aisle in a grocery or department store and you will see dozens of gorgeous women smiling back to you from the covers of fashion, beauty and gossip magazines. They have perfect teeth, porcelain skin, and also the latest make-up tricks and trends playing up their already flawless features. Their hair is blow-dryed, hair-sprayed nirvana. They're wearing the latest designer clothes and they're... NOT what most men consider beautiful. Curious? Read on...
The female demographic spends billions each year on products and clothing that quite frankly are a shrug factor to men. Magazines and sweetness franchises spend much more selling us around the latest trends in eye make-up, lipstick, foundation, hair products and skincare regimes. We see the ad and the happy pretty model using the perfect features and glowing skin and that we want to be her. The issue is, most of us are "enhancing" ourselves to impress men, not women, and unfortunately, we are playing to the wrong audience. Our female friends admire our new hairstyle, eye shadow or designer clothes. However for most men, they could care less if you are wearing Vera Wang, and most are happier with a woman who wears less make-up. So, with that confusing dichotomy in your mind, what is it that men find beautiful inside a woman?
"Most men like a woman who exudes femininity and a fresh, sparkling look," I had been told by 85% from the 2,000 men I surveyed. "Remember Farrah Fawcett from Charlie's Angels? She didn't wear tons of make-up and her hair bounced and looked natural without stiff hair spray.
Her sex appeal was an ideal white teeth, flowing mane and young girl femininity," said J. Banks from San Diego, California.
Mr. Banks was not alone with his assessment of what makes a woman beautiful. The majority of the men I surveyed asserted women today wear an excessive amount of make-up, too much hair product and obsess regarding their wardrobe. Men often favor the lady next door look with clean, fresh skin, minimal make-up and soft hair they are able to run their fingers through. Beautiful smiles were listed in the top 3 stuff that make a woman lovely. Somebody that smiled and laughed often was listed as beautiful. When shown photos of models done in cosmetic perfection, the boys chose the ladies who were smiling each time.
"A smile says "I love my life", also it makes a woman more approachable," 98% of the men told me. They also asserted when it comes to make-up, less is much more. Globs of lip gloss and red lipstick tended to be a turn-off. They stated that kissing someone with all that on their lips was like kissing a blob of grease. Plus, these were tired of it staining their shirts once they hugged a girl.
Eye make-up was listed as "nice", but again, toned down was preferable. Men could care less if you are wearing the latest "smoky eye" or the "cat eye" trend. Their only desire was to look into sparkling eyes which were looking back their way with interest and approval.
"Tell you what," said Mark from Texas. "Know why is a woman beautiful? Confidence! Not conceit, exactly that eye contact, smile and posture saying, "I like who I am... I have a full life."" Guys want in on that. A happy woman equates to low maintenance and excitement.
Clothes were brought up over and again as something most guys really do not notice in the terms of designer labels. Most men love a lady to look just a little tom-boyish at times having a ball cap, white t-shirt and shorts. Form-fitting clothes which were not to the purpose of street walker were, of course favored. Feminine colors and styles beat out tailored, office-style looks. The Grunge look left men cold, as did piercings and most tattoos.
So ladies, you would have it men just want a woman who looks healthy, fresh and sparkles with happiness. To them beauty IS more than skin deep. It's reflected in a woman's confidence, her joy with life and her comfort together with her own femininity. Save playboy model look-a-like for special evening times when you want to make a dramatic statement. First and foremost... be yourself. THAT'S beautiful!